Now it becomes a hot topic about love with offers, I experience the same situation. Several offers come, but girlfriend leave. I think I should tell something to inform the prospective U.S. students.(I am sorry that I have to write in English due to system installation limitation) I am not afraid to give my situation here. I was graduated from Tsinghua and now I am major inComputer Networks in U.S.A. My offers were comed in Spring semester. Although I did not get offers in March and April, I spent time to a girl. I got to know her on 320 bus station and decide to "trace" from that day. Now I think I did the following thing wrong: (1) Due to our background, what we said sometimes may stimulatie people from other universities. To be honest, for example, most Tsinghua students do not like to pursue Ph.D. in Tsinghua directly, but if we said these to a student pursuing Ph.D. in other univs, what is the result? If we helped and instructed them too much(maybe), they feel we are boasting. So, from beginning, no matter how hard I tried in the late, the result is rejection. Sometimes may be our talking about famous university in China or U.S.and our chance in future may stimulate them. (2) Don't look for a girl who is beatiful and sensitive if you are an honest and straightforward person. She always have so many boys around her. Your learning and cleverness are useless especially she was skillful to deal with such things. You can do works for her, but when you invite her to go out, she can promise you from beginning and reject you for any kinds of reasons. (3) Do not feel major in CS or EE is something that can be attracting, especially for the girl who is also major in these majors or tranfer to these majors. Maybe you have ability to earn much money and have a good chance to find a good job, they are not so important. I know just because we can achieve high score that we can major in CS or EE in famous university, but they dislike these, they are pursuing spirit satisfaction from literature and art and these may be just our deficiency. I think that is a reason that I was pulled out waiting queue no matter how many times I tried. (4) Don't go totally following friend's suggestion. Every one has his/her own character and what you show is most important. I am satisfied with my ability to handle relationship with friends and teachers, but how to deal with feelings and show the characteristics that can appeal girls is a difficulty for me. (5) Do not waste chance at any time. I got an offer in May, it was an ordinary university. Since I think it is better for me to "conquer" her before I go abroad, so I delayed the offer until the deadline. But the result was still rejection. (Of course, if you are sure you can be succeed in the end, it is worthy) (6) We should analyze before we can "trace". We should not be attracted by their appearance. What they can select is far more than ours. Although in the end, maybe her "temporaray" selection, in our view, may be worse than us in all aspect, but that guy may be skilled in "trace" girls and I am not sure an ordinary Tsinghua student can win the game. (7) Do not be urgent to look for one. You know you are looking for a person that will accompany you in whole life and beauty will elapse soon. Although it is difficult for a person will go abroad soon and the embarrass situation overseas, but careful consideration is absolutely necessary. Although I have come U.S.A for a period, but such things are still appearing in my dream sometimes(Especially sometimes received her emails). I know feeling life is important for a young student living lonely in foreign countries, but we should get some lesson from our own or friends' experience. It will cost you a lot of time and spirit, but the result may be zero and the hurt may affect your study aboard for a long time. Rejection may be difficult to bear up, but what I can do now it is just bless her future. |
[ 此贴被zerojupiter在2010-02-14 05:48重新编辑 ]
